What do bras, large vehicles, and certain haircuts have in common? If you make the wrong choices, you might find yourself labeled as part of an often-dismissed group: moms.
We’ve all experienced that cringe-worthy moment. Whether it’s feeling embarrassed to admit we follow a certain lifestyle influencer, swearing we’ll never drive a minivan, or obsessively texting friends to ask, “Do these jeans look too much like ‘mom’ jeans?”
I had a revelation in the fitting room of a well-known lingerie store, known for its pink branding. I was struggling to find a comfortable fit for my chest, and nothing seemed to work. Frustrated, I left empty-handed, unwilling to pay $50 for a bra that dug into my back and was clearly marketed toward a younger crowd.
On a whim, I stepped into a high-end department store that I had previously overlooked because my own mother had shopped there for her bras. What I discovered was life-changing.
The bras were not only reasonably priced, but they also boasted superior quality. They were elegant and lacy, perfectly suited to my evolved taste. The “mom bra” that I hesitated to try on ended up being the most comfortable and flattering bra I had ever owned. It seamlessly shaped my curves without pushing them up too high, making me feel confident and attractive – a woman, and yes, a mom.
Still, as I placed it on the counter for checkout, doubt crept in. Would I be judged for choosing a bra with four clasps? Would my husband be amused? What about my friends? At only 28, I feared their snarky comments.
Yet, as I worried about their opinions and what this bra might signify about me, I remembered that incredible support, the comfy cup, and that solid array of clasps. The truth was undeniable: this bra was made for me because I am a mom.
Just like the easy-care bob haircut is favored by mothers, the minivan provides quick access and ample space for kids, and the mommy blogs reassure me about stretch marks and the importance of my role. And those ‘mom jeans’? They may not be the most flattering, but they do wonders for tucking in my post-baby belly, so I’ll rock them with a stylish long shirt.
I refuse to apologize. I’m not just defending my right to comfort despite what others may say. I also want to challenge the notion that labeling something as “mom” equates to being frumpy or lacking in coolness; such stereotypes are ageist, sexist, and utterly incorrect.
Moms come in all shapes and lifestyles. The only thing we can be certain of is that a mom is a woman who has taken on the responsibility for others’ lives. Often, that responsibility brings physical changes, shifts in priorities, and an entry into a community that shares common experiences, which makes certain art forms resonate deeply.
Why are these attributes deemed unattractive? The flawed logic suggests that moms are unsexy because of the choices they make, yet it is precisely those choices that others deem unsexy. To label moms as fundamentally unsexy is simply disrespectful.
But what does it mean to be unsexy? I’m a 28-year-old mother of three who writes a blog, finds joy in my cozy mom bra, tears up listening to Adele, and confidently wears my mom jeans. I know that I am still attractive, especially to my husband, and the glances I receive at the grocery store confirm that I’m not alone in this feeling.
These stereotypes do not define what it means to be a mom. I don’t drive a minivan, my hair is too curly for a classic bob, and Lifetime movies are rarely my cup of tea. And let’s not forget, every single one of us owes our existence to a woman who carried us in her womb. You know, like a mom.
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In summary, embracing the “mom” label doesn’t mean sacrificing comfort or style. Moms are multifaceted individuals deserving of respect and admiration, not ridicule.
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