This post is for all the moms who find solace in spending. You are my kindred spirits, understanding that retail therapy is not just a saying—it can be a costly indulgence.
Being a mom is no walk in the park. We pour our hearts and souls into our families every single day. By the time evening rolls around, we’re running on empty.
What Rejuvenates My Spirit?
A solo trip to TARGET.
I fantasize about those moments when I can wander the aisles alone. Yes, I might treat myself to a Starbucks. And oh, the joy of browsing through clothes without tiny hands pulling at me from every direction!
I even get the chance to try on outfits in the fitting room—by myself! (Honestly, it would be absurd not to.) And yes, I will take my time.
Sometimes, self-care means indulging in a late-night Amazon shopping spree. And let’s be real; that spree often follows a box of wine purchased at Target. It’s a relentless cycle.
I buy to alleviate stress, which tightens my budget, leading to more stress, then more shopping. And so the cycle continues.
Reasons I Find Myself at the Mall
Logically, I know I should establish a budget and adhere to it. I realize I should cut back on spending and save more. Yet, several factors might still lure me to the mall:
- I just received my paycheck.
- The weather is gloomy.
- The sun is shining.
- I’m feeling down and need a pick-me-up.
- I’m in a celebratory mood.
- I stepped on the scale and was horrified.
- It’s the weekend.
- It’s a Tuesday.
- We could face a catastrophe at any moment (thanks to our current political situation).
- Something is on sale.
- Shopping just brings me joy.
- I’m purchasing gifts for others, so it’s totally justified.
That last reason is my go-to excuse. Sure, I might indulge in a few items for myself, but I usually focus on buying for my kids or the family’s benefit. (Yes, I’m talking about that Instant Pot.)
When I treat myself, it’s typically for something small—like opting for Pantene conditioner over Suave, or splurging on $7 mascara instead of the questionable $2 brand.
It’s never a matter of “Let’s hire a limo; I’m off to browse Louis Vuitton.” More likely, I’m thrilled if I can snag a new pair of yoga pants before my current ones become completely threadbare.
Managing Finances and Finding Joy
Now, before anyone jumps into the comments, I manage my own finances. And yes, I understand this is a first-world dilemma. But I genuinely enjoy spending on my children.
Most of my purchases are for clothes and shoes, providing me peace of mind that their needs are met. I buy them toys when I can, even if our home is already overflowing with stuff because their smiles are priceless.
It’s the simple act of doing nice things for them that brings me joy, and that’s where my tendency to overspend originates—along with those precious hours of solitude away from home.
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In summary, while shopping may be my coping mechanism, it also stems from a deep desire to provide for my family and enjoy a little me-time.
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