Descending feet first – an unyielding plunge. With a forceful splash, she finds herself submerged. Bubbles rise around her, a fleeting hope for survival. The water envelops her, saturating her hair as she wonders if this is her fate. This overwhelming sensation is amplified by persistent whispers of self-doubt and criticism: “She should be doing better. She’s not fit to be a mom. She’ll never accomplish everything. She must enforce discipline with her children. She is overextended. Her house isn’t clean enough. She should lose weight. She doesn’t deserve motherhood…”
These thoughts drag her further down. The reason behind her sudden fall from grace? Was it her rigid interpretation of motherhood? Or perhaps the scrutiny from social media regarding her choice to vaccinate? It might even stem from her weekly gatherings with other moms, where authoritarian ideals and complete household control are lauded. Much like the Stepford Wives, the subtle judgments of fellow mothers have pushed her toward the edge. Now, she is drowning.
She is suffocating under the disparity between the unattainable ideal of perfection and the reality of life. She is the working mother juggling two jobs to make ends meet, yet burdened by guilt over her long hours. She fears for her children’s safety, haunted by her own past pains. She struggles with helping her kids on school projects and questions her cooking abilities, often overlooking the many things she excels at. She is the mother of a child with special needs, grappling with the feeling that somehow it’s her fault. She is the mother whose child just had a public meltdown, drawing stares from onlookers. She is the mother who watches the news in fear, uncertain if her child will return home safely from school.
She is drowning in guilt and self-doubt, yearning for a lifeline of kindness. Offer her a hand instead of casting judgment (if you see her child crying, lend a helping hand rather than just observing). Support her well-researched decision to vaccinate, homeschool, or whatever path she has chosen (disagree if you must, but do so kindly). Acknowledge her nonverbal child with a friendly smile.
Raise her spirits by recognizing her commitment to spending quality time with her kids over maintaining a pristine home. Encourage her if she pursues a career or if she opts to stay home. Whether she chooses organic or non-organic, breastfeeding or bottle-feeding, homeschooling or private schooling, it all matters. Support her choices – whether it’s vegetables or fast food, co-sleeping or cry-it-out, college or trade school, gluten-free or carb-loaded.
Lift her up because she is a mother. She loves her children wholeheartedly. She is doing her best, just like you. Her ultimate aim is to raise happy, successful kids.
If you witness her submerged by the burdens of parenting or societal judgments, if you see her criticized on social media or questioning her abilities as a mother, promise to extend your hand, uplift her, and ensure she does not drown.
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Summary
This article reflects on the struggles many mothers face, emphasizing the importance of kindness and support in a world filled with judgment. By understanding and lifting each other up, we can navigate the complexities of motherhood together.
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