As a pediatrician, I have some insights I’d like to share with parents, but often I keep them to myself. You might suspect it, but it’s hard to know for sure. Every time you ask me not to judge your choices or express concern about being “that” mom, it’s clear you’re worried about what I think.
You fret over how I perceive you while your children are bouncing around the exam room. You question whether I will take your stories seriously or if I’ll judge you for not having everything figured out. I sense your anxiety that if you admit to feeling overwhelmed, I might offer you advice that feels impossible to implement.
The Reality of Parenting
Here’s the reality: I do think things about you, but I often hold back because I doubt you’ll truly hear the words. I want to reassure you that you’re too hard on yourself. It’s apparent how deeply you care for your kids and how much effort you’re putting in. I wish I could encourage you to take a breath and stop stressing over finding the “perfect” parenting style.
I understand the frustration that comes when your kids can be, well, a handful. Yes, they can be little monsters! I want to remind you that it’s perfectly fine to scale back on their activities, allowing time for your own enjoyment. Instead, I suggest reducing their commitments for their well-being, knowing they’re often overscheduled and stressed. But deep down, I recognize that you need that time for yourself too, and you don’t have to exhaust yourself to be a good parent.
You Are Enough
Your kids adore you, even when they’re being challenging. No one can replace mom in their eyes, as you play a crucial role in shaping their identities. I want to affirm that you are enough. You possess everything required to be the loving, connected mother you aspire to be—you frequently succeed at this, and I hold you in high regard.
When you look at your child with love, it’s a beautiful sight. I want you to know we’re in this together.
A Secret of My Own
Now, here’s a secret of my own: I live in your community, and I sometimes wonder what you think of me when you see me out with my kids. Do you think I have it all together, or do you see my own parenting struggles? Would it be reassuring for you to know that I face challenges too?
Two Key Qualities for Parenting
If I could, I’d share two key qualities that can greatly benefit your children: presence and curiosity. Moms who are genuinely present foster a deep connection that fulfills a fundamental human need. Those who maintain a sense of curiosity about their kids tend to understand them in a unique way, ultimately unlocking the support they need.
Remember, I’m your pediatrician, and this is our little secret.
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In Summary
In summary, I want you to know that being a parent is a journey filled with ups and downs, and it’s essential to give yourself grace along the way. You’re doing better than you think, and fostering presence and curiosity will strengthen your bond with your children.
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