A few weeks back, I experienced an unsettling incident that has lingered in my mind. This “incident” took place on a quiet street in a small town in upstate New York, during a particularly heavy snowstorm that led to school closures across the county. If you’re familiar with this region, you know that when schools shut down due to snow, it’s not just a minor flurry.
I had a dental appointment that day, and despite the weather, I felt it was important to keep my appointment. After parking, I stepped out of my car and waited for a couple of vehicles to pass before crossing the street. The first car went by without issue, but the second one came to a complete stop. Although I didn’t see the driver signal me to cross, I assumed it was safe and proceeded to walk across the road. Once I reached the sidewalk, I noticed the passenger window rolling down, and a middle-aged white man leaned out, hands together as if in prayer, squinting his eyes. In a mock Asian accent, he shouted, “You should say thank you.”
I initially raised my hand in gratitude for the driver’s consideration, but as the realization of his offensive gesture and comment sank in, I felt a wave of disbelief. For context, I am Asian, and this experience was a stark reminder of the racism that persists in our society.
You may have your own opinions about this incident, ranging from “What’s the big deal?” to “How can such things still happen?” Regardless of your viewpoint, it’s essential to acknowledge a few key facts:
Discrimination and Racism Are Everyday Realities.
Even if you don’t see the overt signs of segregation that existed in the past, it’s crucial to understand that discrimination based on race, gender, religion, or sexual orientation continues to occur daily. It can manifest through comments, gestures, or even systemic inequalities like lack of access to quality education or healthcare.
It Happens Everywhere.
If you think “that would never happen here,” consider that discrimination occurs in every community, often unnoticed. While it may not be headline news, it’s a daily reality for many individuals around you.
Unconscious Bias Affects Us All.
Many of us harbor unconscious biases we may not even be aware of. These are the stereotypes and judgments we hold about others without realizing it. Recognizing these biases doesn’t mean you are a bad person; it’s simply an invitation to reflect on how these subconscious beliefs may influence your behavior.
Understanding Privilege Is Important.
Reflecting on your privilege can be uncomfortable, but it’s a necessary part of the conversation. It doesn’t imply you haven’t worked hard or faced challenges in your life. Instead, it encourages you to recognize the advantages that may come with your race, gender, or socioeconomic status. For instance, growing up in a stable, middle-class environment has afforded me opportunities like quality education and healthcare that others may not have access to.
Love and Equality Are Not Enough.
Most people believe they are non-discriminatory, but unconscious biases can still lead to excluding others. You may support equality while unknowingly endorsing policies or actions that disadvantage specific groups. It’s essential to be aware of these complexities and educate yourself about the realities of inequity.
For me, racism has shown up in various forms throughout my life, whether through direct comments or implicit judgments. Recognizing that these issues exist is the first step toward understanding and addressing them. So, to the man in the van who thought it was appropriate to mock me during a snowstorm: karma has a way of coming back around.
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In summary, my recent encounter is a reminder of the racism that still pervades our society. It’s essential to reflect on our biases, acknowledge our privileges, and strive toward a more inclusive world.
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