In these unsettling times filled with uncertainty, it feels as though we’re all navigating through a fog of unanswered questions and shared fears. Observing the reactions of those around me—friends, family, and even acquaintances through the lens of social media—reveals a common thread of evolving emotions. The one truth I’ve come to accept is that there are no clear answers. Instead of striving to provide solutions to my children’s inquiries, I’ve shifted my approach to one of listening. We’re sharing feelings over facts, humor over solutions, and ultimately weaving our own narrative through this experience.
Our family of five—two teenage boys, 15 and 18, and a daughter, 14—calls the serene foothills of Alberta home. Surrounded by a variety of animals, we consider ourselves just another typical middle-class Canadian family. However, the notion of isolation is not unfamiliar to us; it’s something we unconsciously sought five years ago when we left city life behind. We yearned for open spaces and tranquility, but we didn’t fully grasp what we were leaving behind: the constant buzz of urban life—the noise, the rush, the competition. Settling on our farm, I experienced a profound sense of freedom from that chaos, and for the first time in my life, I was met with silence.
This quiet, while coveted, also became a source of discomfort. I realized that the stillness allowed buried emotions to surface—healing and forgiveness needed to take place, along with feelings of anger. It was challenging to confront these feelings when all I wanted was to enjoy a cozy afternoon on the deck with a warm drink, watching birds flit around the mountains we had invested so much in.
In a way, this shift prepared me for the current social distancing environment—not as a crisis, but as a necessary adjustment. Daily trips to the grocery store soon became impractical, prompting me to implement better planning and list-making habits. Virtual coffee dates, text chats, and phone calls replaced spontaneous outings, as my responsibilities at home—managing the farm and my family while running a business—kept me busy.
Of course, there was an adjustment phase. I used to often slip into the mall for a quick shopping spree or lunch with a friend to reward myself for juggling the complexities of raising three children with medical challenges. Yet, as I stepped back from those routines, I discovered a newfound contentment and resourcefulness. My trips to the city became more deliberate; I spent less money and, in turn, focused on what truly mattered to us as a family.
Being physically distanced from others taught me self-sufficiency in ways I never imagined. I learned to adapt recipes with whatever ingredients I had on hand, fix things around the house, and even enjoy yoga in the comfort of my own living room. Engaging in deep conversations over the phone became unexpectedly enjoyable, especially since I didn’t have to brave a cold car ride home afterward. I discovered the joy of making fewer grocery trips and became adept at finding practical solutions on Pinterest, moving beyond the usual crafts and style ideas.
If there’s one lesson I’ve gained from this experience, it’s that being together, albeit forced, uncovers hidden joys and annoyances alike. You’ll find new things to love about each other and, at times, feel the urge to throw something at a sibling. Patience and forgiveness emerge, and you learn to carve out personal space in creative ways. This time allows for reflection on who we are as individuals and as a family.
I encourage you to view this unique period as an opportunity rather than an obstacle. Embrace it. Pay attention to your children—not just to their words, but also to the body language you might typically overlook during a busy morning. Involve them in meal preparations, teaching them valuable skills for their future relationships. Show them practical household tasks in a way that makes sense, so they can become responsible adults.
Take this time to appreciate the little things: light those candles you’ve been saving, savor that special bottle of wine, dance in the kitchen, or finally dive into that knitting project you’ve been putting off. These moments can enrich our lives and should be the way we choose to live. The time has been gifted to us; let’s embrace it fully.
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Summary:
This reflection emphasizes the unexpected lessons learned from social distancing, highlighting the importance of family connections, self-sufficiency, and making the most of shared time together.
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