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When I take my toddler twins out in public, comments like “You’ve got your hands full!” or “Double trouble!” often come my way. However, what most people don’t realize is that my journey to motherhood involved more than just luck; it took over a year of fertility treatments, including IVF, to finally bring my two little miracles into the world. I cherish every moment of motherhood, knowing how hard-won it was for me.
While infertility has given me invaluable perspective, I am reminded that it hasn’t vanished from my life. Now that my twins are two and a half, the question “Are you going to try for a third?” comes up frequently. I usually respond with a smile, but deep down, I am filled with dread at the thought of facing the IVF process again. This time, I know precisely what to expect.
Recently, my partner and I visited a new fertility clinic to kick off the journey toward baby #3. We met with a Reproductive Endocrinologist, underwent some initial testing, and began the next steps. I felt somewhat confident, having two healthy children already. After all, this will just be a frozen embryo transfer—how hard can it be, right?
Fortunately, we have nine frozen embryos from our first IVF cycle. The next step involved transferring these embryos from our previous clinic to the new one. We signed the necessary paperwork, picked up our embryos in a cryopreservation tank, and made our way to their new home. As I sat in the passenger seat with the potential future child(ren) nestled between my legs, tears filled my eyes. It struck me that fertile individuals never have to navigate such complexities. I realized that while I may be more resilient this time, the experience of infertility remains daunting.
I’ve had three years to process my infertility and the accompanying emotional toll, but the pain still lingers. After dropping off our embryos, I scrolled through social media and stumbled upon a pregnancy announcement from someone I know. It was her third pregnancy in four years, and while I felt genuinely happy for her, I was also caught off guard by a wave of sadness. The reality that a “surprise” third pregnancy will never be our reality hit me hard.
I’ve always dreamed of having three children. Coming from a family of three, and with my partner sharing a similar background, we are excited about the possibility of expanding our family. Yet, as we embark on this journey again, we are cautious. We understand that IVF does not guarantee success, and that 1 in 4 pregnancies end in miscarriage. We’re all too aware of how consuming fertility treatments can be, and we brace ourselves for the potential heartbreak.
One significant unknown is whether our remaining embryos are chromosomally normal. During our previous IVF cycle, we opted out of genetic testing due to costs. Even though we were only 28 then, there’s still a chance some embryos may have genetic abnormalities, leading to failed transfers or miscarriages. We’ve debated whether to pursue genetic testing this time, but after consulting with our doctor, it appears the risks may outweigh the benefits, so we must hope for the best.
I’m uncertain when we’ll be ready to transfer again. Right now, the thought of trying again feels intimidating. However, I am thankful for the nine chances we have to grow our family, and I feel incredibly blessed to have two healthy children already. The reality of infertility is that it allows for simultaneous feelings of sadness, gratitude, and fear. It’s possible to be genuinely happy for others while feeling sorrowful about our own situation. We can deeply desire a third child and yet be petrified of going through IVF once more. These emotions coexist because they make us human.
For 1 in 8 couples in the U.S., deciding if and when to expand their family involves many considerations. For us, having another baby isn’t as simple as the act of conception. It’s a complicated blend of grief and hope, anger and acceptance, fear and joy, happiness and disbelief. It encompasses negative pregnancy tests, large boxes of medications, and the emotional rollercoaster of fertility treatments.
Infertility is about experiencing every possible emotion, learning to control what you can, and picking yourself up time and again because parenting is your ultimate goal, only to repeat the cycle years later.
I don’t know how our story will unfold, but I am confident that whatever happens, we will manage to navigate it together.
For more insights on this journey, you might find helpful resources like this post on home insemination or check out Cryobaby’s at-home insemination kit for more information. Additionally, CCRM IVF’s blog offers excellent resources on pregnancy and home insemination.
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Summary:
The journey of IVF is filled with a mix of hope, fear, and the complexities of infertility. As I prepare to attempt a third child, I reflect on my past experiences, the emotional weight they carry, and the gratitude I feel for my twins. Navigating this path is challenging, filled with uncertainties, but I remain hopeful for our future.
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