It’s not all sunshine and cuddles—sometimes, mom anger is inevitable. Here are some strategies to keep your frustration in check.
I used to think of myself as pretty easygoing. Sure, I can be stubborn and hold a grudge (just ask my patient partner), but generally, I preferred to keep things calm. However, once I became a parent, my patience was truly put to the test. It’s incredibly challenging to remain composed when your newborn has been crying for hours or when you’ve asked your toddler multiple times to put on her shoes, only for her to throw one at you!
In this era of conscious parenting, I strive to engage with mindfulness: getting down to their level, listening actively, and discussing rather than demanding. But there’s a limit to my diplomacy. I’ve raised my voice—more times than I can count—only to be hit with a wave of #momguilt right afterward.
I recognize that losing your temper is part of the parenting journey, but I want to reduce those fiery outbursts and let go of the guilt that often creeps back in over trivial things, like a coat left on the couch instead of hung up. That’s when you know it’s time for a mental refresh. Welcome to your new anger-management strategy.
Take a Deep Breath
“When we lose control, we’re essentially hijacked emotionally, which means we’re no longer in charge of our behavior,” explains Sarah, a psychotherapist and mindfulness coach. “Our bodies go into fight-or-flight mode, and the rational part of our brain shuts down.” It’s crucial to reboot and regain perspective in those moments. Though it may sound simple, focusing on your breath can genuinely help.
This technique works wonders for Emily, a mom from Chicago. “My son is great but super active—he rarely sits still,” she shares. “When I feel my anger rising, I take three deep breaths, and it really helps me calm down.” Sometimes, her son joins in, breathing deeply alongside her! Apps like Breathe2Relax, Calm, and Inner Balance can guide you through this practice.
Stand Tall Like a Superhero
When life feels overwhelming, try changing your posture. Sarah recommends the “SNAP” method: Stop, Notice your body, Accept the moment, and Pay attention to your breath. This can be done anywhere—even in the midst of chaos.
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In summary, managing mom anger requires awareness and practical strategies. By implementing deep breathing techniques and adjusting your physical stance, you can navigate the challenges of parenting with greater ease.
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